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partner, he should be enthusíastic, tell her how beautiful she is and how great she tastes. Don’t treat it like a chore.

Tell Her She Looks (and Tastes) Great

“It’s been proven that women who feel confident about the appearance of their genítals are more open to different kinds of sé-xual activity, and are more likely to orgásm because they feel relaxed… When a man goes down on his partner, he should be enthusíastic, tell her how beautiful she is and how great she tastes. Don’t treat it like a chore.” —Debra Lynne Herbenick, Ph.D., Indiana University, Kinsey Institute

 

Use Your Ears

“The only difference between a gígolo and a regular guy is that a gígolo listens to what a woman wants in béd. So, ask. I would also advise that you to ask her while not in the bédroom — raise the discussion while out walking or doing some other casual yet íntimate thing together.”

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—Dr. Helen Fisher, Department of Anthropology, Rutgers University

Touch Hér Evérywhere (with Oíl)

“Sénsual touching reléases a powerful s-éx hormoné called oxytocín, which increases a woman’s téstosterone levels and ignités her s-éx drive. The sé-ductive silky feel of oil béing rubbéd on skin is a turn-on for more passionaté s-éx — for both of you.”
—Carol Cassell, Ph.D, former president of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sé-xuality, Western Region

Bring the Kitchen into the Bédroom

“árginine is the basis for Viágra, so men should stick with foods high in it — such as oysters, fish, and other lean proteins. Everything that’s good for you above the waist is good for you below the waist as well: greens and beans; high protein/low-fat foods; and brightly colored fruits and vegetables, high in ántioxidants. The Standard American Diet is … a detriment to performance.”
—Lynn Edlen-Nezin, Ph.D, co-author of Great Food, Great S-éx

Take Your Time Undréssing

“There is a degree of manipulation when it comes to the amount of néurotransmitter released… Looking at a nud-é picture will triggér a quick and strong release of dopaminé and possibly oxytocín, but it fades quickly… Let her work for it a little; she’ll enjoy the prolon-géd né-urological org-ásm more.”
—Andrea Kuszewski, Behavior Therapist and Consultant, Boston, Massachusetts

Take a Showér

“There’s no proven human pheromone to make you irresistible… So, until one is found, wash well — you can have too much of a good thing. (But why not leave a worn T-shirt at her house? It will keep you always in her mind.)”
—Dr. Tristram Wyatt, Department of Zoology, University of Oxford

Create a Mood — Turn the Lights Down

“For women to get á-roused, parts of their brains associated with stress and án-xiety need to de-activate, according to neurologicál studies in the Netherlands. If women aren’t relaxed, they’re not going to enjoy sé-x. So dim the lights and share a fán-tasy. A Harvard study found that when you hug a woman longer than thirty seconds, it increases her oxytocín levels and anticipation of sé-x.”
—Ian Kerner, Ph.D, FAACS, author of She Comes First: the Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Reversé Cowgirl Position

“Find out what position of intércourse is most stimulating to her — it’s usually woman on top, facing away, also known as the reverse cowgirl. The angle of the pénis through the anterior/front wall of the vá-gina stimulátes the area of the G-spot.”
—Beverly Whipple, Ph.D, Professor Emerita at Rutgers University and co-author of The Science of Orgásm

Don’t Worry So Much — Int-ércourse Isn’t Everything

“If you’re thinking, ‘I hope it works! I hope it works!’ it’s not going to work. Take penetrative s-éx off the table for a month — do everything but that. Avoid making intérco-urse the be-all/end all. In most cases, once men stop worrying about it, it starts working. You can definitely stress yourself out of a boner.”
—Emily Wentzell, Assistant Professor of Anthropology, University of Iowa

Get Her Pregnant (On Purpose)

“If you’re trying to impregnate your wife or girlfriend, stop thrusting immediately after éj-aculating. The shape of your pén-is… was designed by natural selection to work as a retraction device, removing competing males’ spé-rm from your female partner’s vágin-al tract. So if you keep going at it after you’ve achieved org-ásm, you’re basically disadvantaging your own reproductive success.”
—Jesse Bering, Ph.D, director, Institute of Cognition and Culture, Queen’s University, Belfast

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