“Nobody had said about cond-óms till I noticed from some individuals so it stops pregnancy and sé-xually transmitted viruses,” he said. But, his excitement was deflated when he tried to explore...
He needed to take pleasure from his new discovery with one of his true spouses that night. He said, “For the first time, I tried to utilize it when I wished to rest with my spouse but she bluntly refused. She claimed she wasn't a prostitute and queried why I needed to employ a cond-óm once we have already been married for a long time and never used one.”
Continue after the break.Since that time, Huese, who has 10 children, never tried to utilize a con-dóm with one of his two wives. “I have never about the use of condó-ms anyway. It's perhaps not stopped me from having s-éx regularly. The woman knows the indicator when the person is about to eja-culate or achieve or-gasm. Therefore she has recently even enjoyed it more than the person before he withdraws,” noted Huese animatedly.
The usage of cond-óms is odd to guys in Makoko, a largely populated slum city in Lagos where majority reside in wooden shacks developed on water.
Like Huese, several Egun people in Makoko, along with Oko-Agbon and Ago-Egun towns in Yaba Local Council gov. Place, Lagos, do not like applying cond-óms because of their long used conventional opinion in the old exercise of co-itus inte-rruptus, also known as the withdrawal or pull-out approach throughout sé-xual intercourse.
For centuries, this has been used as a method of birth control worldwide.
The history is not lost on the Egun people whose forefathers migrated from neighbouring Francophone West African countries like Togo and Benin Republic, as well as from Badagry, Lagos. This age old practice has been transferred to the current generation, where most of the people speak their local Egun dialect and sometimes French. Their major occupations are fishing and farming. Only a few understand English and the residents, whose maj live in wooden shacks built on murky waters oozing with an unpleasant odour.
“The use of co-ndóm means nothing for us here as Egun people. We don’t like using con-dóms because we know ourselves, both women and men; we don’t go outside or sleep around. It’s those people who go outside sleeping with different people that contact such diseases like HIV,” said Lowato Luke, one of the traditional chiefs in the area.
Luke, who has two wives and 12 children, gleefully boasted that he had mastered the withdrawal method and understands his wives’ ovulation cycles. “I know the particular times to have séx with my wives, even if they are breastfeeding and I want to have séx with them, I know how to do it to prevent another pregnancy,” he said. Like Huese, he also claimed that his wives enjoy the séx more than he does. “But if you use con-dóm, it won’t be that enjoyable. I have never used a con-dóm,” he noted.
It is the same case with Kirianko Goi, in his 40s. “I don’t believe in the use of con-dóm because I never heard that from my father. It’s not for me to say whether I will advise my children to use cond-óm or not. If the young boys and girls want to have séx, they won’t tell you. This generation is clearly different from that of my father and mine. But if I’m in a position to do so, I will advise them, it is my duty to advise them,” he said.
Goi’s nephews, two young men in their 20s, one married and the other unmarried, giggled intermittently during their uncle’s brief con-dóm talk. But they declined comments when asked if they use con-dóms during séx.
Many of the men who spoke to our correspondent in the community expressed their aversion to the use of con-dóms during séxual intercourse and were insistent that their women enjoyed it that way.
Twenty-five-year-old Bernadette Sato, who has two children, agreed. She does not like cond-óm. “We don’t like using con-dóm. But if we don’t want to get pregnant, we know how to do it by ourselves; it pays us more that way, because we don’t like using con-dóm. I was told in a hospital in Cotonou, Benin Republic, where I gave birth to my first child, that people who don’t want to get pregnant can use con-dóm. Sometimes, I use a family planning drug before and after séx with my husband to prevent pregnancy,” she said, noting that many of her friends also don’t like con-dóms, while some claimed it could bring about disease. “I don’t know the type of disease, but I just don’t like cond-óm during séx,” she added.
Pipi Olorunwa, who has been married for 12 years and has six children, gave an insight into the female perspective. She said: “Although there is no official report that says cond-óm is bad; personally, I don’t like it because God did not create it. Those who created it did so because of the level of immorality in the world today so that they can enjoy themselves. There are several methods to avoid pregnancy. A couple can have séx without the wife conceiving.
“I also don’t like the chemical and odour from con-dóm because I believe the chemicals used in preserving the con-dóm could cause problems and is harmful to the body. Although I didn’t get the information from a medical expert, but everybody does according to their belief. I don’t use any drug either to prevent pregnancy. I just do it the natural way with my husband.”
“We don’t use need it or any other contraceptive because we understand how to do child spacing,’’ noted the head of the traditional chiefs in the area, 55-year-old Mr. Francis Agoyon Alashe. When probed further, he gave a timeline of the spacing among some of his 14 children as proof. It showed a two or three-year gap among them. “My children are well spaced. Some of them, including the twins, were born in 1984, 1986 and 1989. I stopped having children in 2003,” he explained, adding that he still had séx with his wives during those period without childbirth because he had ‘planned it carefully with the withdrawal method.’
“Of course, the woman enjoys it. It’s a matter of agreement between the man and the woman. We don’t like using con-dóms as such because we want flesh to meet flesh. If a man is too anxious during séx, he will ejaculate on time, but if he can control his excitement, he can take longer minutes,” he explained.
According to Agoyon, the use of co-ndóms could even have ‘negative effects.’ “We believe using con-dóm could bring disease on its own. This could happen when the sperm goes back into the manhood. We call it ‘foon’. Then, to urinate will be very difficult,” he said
However, a medical doctor, Dr. Kareem Jamiu, punctured holes in Agoyon’s statement. “That’s not true. It’s not medically possible. But there is what is called ‘retrograde ejaculation’, where the sperm goes backwards to the bladder instead of forward. Normally, when a man wants to ejaculate, the bladder neck closes so that the sperm can easily flow forward. But if the bladder neck muscles are weak or relaxed, then it means there is a problem. Some causes of retrograde ejaculations are complications from diabetes, a malfunctioning bladder sphincter, as well as some STDs. But in a normal male, the bladder neck is normally so tight and so the sperm cannot go back,” explained Jamiu, who once worked with the Doctors Without Borders/Médecins Sans Frontières during their intervention programme in Makoko, Oddo and Badia communities in Lagos State.
The MSF team, comprised foreign doctors supported by Nigerian medical staff, worked in these areas for over two years and established a health centre, until they left in 2012.
Despite the lack of information, knowledge, and awareness about the consequences of unprotected séx, there is a general low rate of STDs and HIV/AIDS in the Makoko communities, noted Jamiu, who confirmed to our correspondent that the people in the communities really don’t like using con-dóms.
He said: “We tried talking with them but it was difficult getting the message across to them. When you tell them about it, they just laugh about it and say they will try.
“From our experience with them, their way of preventing pregnancy is coitus interruptus. Most of the males that had STDs patronised traditional healers, while the females sometime came for treatment, although the rate of STDs or HIV/AIDS was not as widespread as feared. I don’t think there was any difference between the rates in Makoko when compared with the general population or with people who live in different settings. Sometimes, there were 11 cases of HIV in a month, sometimes 12. The community also recorded low figures in malaria and cholera cases,” he explained.
“We have special herbs to cure STDs like gonorrhoea and other types of diseases,” said Huese. “It is an Egunsecret,” Agoyon replied when probed about it.
This surprising trend may be due to what is medically termed ‘herd immunity’, Jamiu noted. “When a group of people are exposed to something too frequently, they tend to develop a general immunity to it,” he explained.
According to Vaccines Today, an online publication, “Herd immunity is a form of immunity that occurs when the vaccination of a significant portion of a population (or herd) provides a measure of protection for individuals who have not developed immunity.”
“I think that’s what happened in Makoko. The rates of diseases were not really as bad as envisaged, Jamiu said.
Another medical doctor who worked with MSF, Dr. Valentina Edoro, echoed Jamiu’s words. “There were isolated cases of STDS, but not high. The number was not something that needed any special intervention. When the women came for family planning; we found out that they don’t discuss it with their husband. We needed to bring the men on board during discussions on family planning, but it came about much later when we were about rounding off the project,” she said. Edoro added that many of the men in Makoko said they didn’t enjoy séx with cond-óms because they believed it decreased the pleasure during séx.
However, she pointed out that the withdrawal method may not necessarily be effective in preventing pregnancies and STDs. “This is because the pre-ejaculation fluid from a man’s penis may contain sperm, which means that the man may still has enough sperm to make a woman pregnant,” she said, noting that the women were less conservative about family planning than the men.
“Surprisingly we also discovered that their children were healthy and they breastfed for longer time, malnutrition was not a problem. Yes, they had a lot of chest infections because of their environment and they smoke. But they were healthy, despite their environment. I was also surprised about the low rate of STDs because they don’t protect themselves with con-dóms. They don’t marry outside the community, I don’t know if that is a factor,” she noted.
Conservatism, illiteracy, lack of awareness, traditional beliefs, environmental factors, high risk séxual behaviour and poverty may be some reasons for the widespread practice of unsafe séx among people in the community. There is also a high rate of teenage pregnancy there.
Their claims asides, SUNDAY PUNCH gathered from some of the residents that, despite their marital status, a few of them still had séxual affairs outside the community.
“Today, girls are getting pregnant more and giving birth. Séx is more common in Makoko among the young boys and girls. They like it. All they know in this settlement is séx. You see young girls of 13, 14 years, who have had séx. And when they are brought to the elders, they would claim that they are husband and wife. We deliberated some cases last Sunday, Monday and Tuesday. We had cases of rape in the past but it is very rare. Nowadays, some of these young girls spend their mothers’ profits from her trade to get boys to have séx with them,” Agoyon said. Most times, a traditional marriage ceremony is quickly conducted between these young, consenting lovers. It doesn’t cost much to have one in Makoko, a traditional wedding ceremony could cost between N10,000 and N150,000, Agoyon said.
This developing trend may change the status quo in the community in terms of population growth and rates of STDS.
This is the more reason why, beyond the changing perspectives, Jamiu said people in communities such as Makoko needed more enlightenment about the use of contraceptives such as co-ndóms, considering the social and economic effects such population increase in slums areas would have on the country.
According to recent World Bank statistics, Nigeria, with a population of over 160 million where majority live on less than $2 a day, has the seventh highest birth rate in the world. The report stated that Nigerian women give birth to an average of six children within their childbearing years.
“Their educational awareness and knowledge of contraceptives is very poor in Makoko. I can’t comment on how it works for them. But if the communities can be provided with standard education, it will help change their mentality and way of life, because you can’t dislodge them from there. That’s where they are comfortable to live in. It’s more of a rudimentary life. They have some brilliant children where during interaction with them, you know they can be better. Education is what they need,’’ he noted.
Although the older generation still holds strongly to the séxual practice of their forefathers, the younger generation of Egun people seem to be drifting away with the current of modern times, while in the murky waters surrounding their communities.
Remi Goka, in his 30s, who was evasive about his marital status, said he used cond-óms whenever he was with his girlfriends. Like he put it, he didn’t know if they had other séxual relationships outside. “But I go for tests regularly. I have many of my friends who use co-ndóms,” he said.
His friends, whose ages ranged from 18 to 30; Hunkarin, Yomlomnun Monday, Keyebo Richard and Djisou Honsou, who had his name tattooed on his arm, all agreed. They all use co-ndóms also. Goka agreed that séx among young people was now a common way of life in the community.
“Yes, there is a difference between my generation and the older one because we are more enlightened about the issues. We have a larger population now. It’s a thing of choice,’’ he noted.
With an increasing population, especially of women and children, poverty, poor living conditions, lack of education and basic infrastructure and services, the increasing rate of unprotected séx in Makoko communities is a worrying trend, especially as the general dislike for cóndoms hasn’t changed much with the younger generation.
“They live in a kind of cocoon. For them, it’s a way of life. The men go for fishing; the women go to the market and come back. From what I have observed, there are no special values being handed over. So, it goes on like a cycle. The young boys grow up to impregnate their women and it just goes on and on,” Edoro noted.
Written By Punch's Arukaina Umukoro
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