Thursday, June 13, 2013

Or-ál S-éx, African Diasporás and Issues Arising




Most s-éxually active people in the United States participate in or-ál s-éx. Matter-of-factly, to many, orá-l s-éx is more pléasurable than genital penetrátion. In America, different slangs have now been coined for or-ál s-éx – Bl-ów Jób, Gó-Dówn-Sóuth, Go-Dówn, G-ét-A-H-éad, 69-P-ósition and the list goes on. For people who value medical terminólogy, Cúnnilingus identifies or-ál s-éx performed on females while fellatió identifies orá-l sé-x performed on males.

For the most part, majority of Africans (especially African men) shun or-ál s-éx either for religious, cultural or traditional reasons. The few that participate in it'll deny it vehemently in public areas because they notice it as a disdainful “girly-man” s-éxual activity. A genuine man should have the ability to give a lady the same pléasure using his sé-x ó-rgan, they will argue. In Nigeria for instance, you can find different d-énigrating words for describing men that pérform or-ál s-éx on womén.


Some years ago, a new American lady once có-nfided that she split up with her “African Boyfriend” while he refused to perfórm or-ál s-éx on her behalf although he wants her to execute or-ál s-éx on him.  “It is not right. It is very selfish of him. When I asked him why, he said he's a prince and it's fórbidden for a Nigerian prince to do such things”, she complained.

However, many African men who're married to Westerners would let you know they have no choice perfórming or-ál sé-x on their partnérs. Some African women on the other hand who will like to possess or-ál s-éx using their partner shy far from saying it because they do not desire to be defined as being “spóilt” or s-éxually pérverted which can lead to the ruin of their relationship.

Perhaps not the younger Africans; nevertheless the middle-aged and older Africans (male and female alike) in the Western World have given reasons (real or fabricatéd) for refusing to participate in o-rál s-éx. Many will tell you it's bad (without any scientific proof) but based on what they heard from their parents and other adults in Africa.

In recent weeks, the claim by Michael Douglas'(America famous actor) that or-ál s-éx might be the explanation for his throat cancer has reveal the “safety” of or-ál s-éx. In a candid interview with the Guardian newspaper, the actor said that he didn't regret his years of smoking and drinking, that have been regarded as the explanation for his cancer when he was diagnosed 36 months ago. "No. Because without wanting to have too specific, this specific cancer is brought on by HPV [Human Papillomá-virus], that actually comes about from c-únnilingus," he said.


Although it is known in a few circles for decades since HPV contracted from or-ál s-éx along side smoking, could indeed bring about some forms of or-ál cancers but very few individuals are informed about this, especially young people. It's believed that HPV inféctions usually don't cause any signs or symptoms in either s-éx, but some types can cause geni-tál w-árts. High-risk forms of HPV can cause pérsistent infection, which could gradually turn into cancer, and usually only cérvical cancer.

According to the US Centers for Disease Control, about 79 million Americans are now infected with the disease and  HPV is really common that nearly all s-éxually-active men and women can get one or more type of HPV at some point within their lives.

One is tempted to believe Micheal Douglas'public outcry on or-ál s-éx as probable cause of his cancer and the recent studies on Cúnnilingus diseases vindicaté the wisdom behind most of Africans shunning o-rál s-éx. Could it be that the fantastic ancestors of Africa knew about these diseases thousands of years ago and as such ab-stainéd from such acts?

For several African men in the Diaspora, it's a continual relationship challenge specifically for those who are married or in a connection with none-Africans. Studies show it is easier for an African-African partner to understandably handle it if one partner is enthusiastic about or-ál sé-x and the other doesn't than for an African and a none-African relationship.

Such as the American lady insinuatéd, many people attended to argue that ré-ciprocity exists in s-éx, specifically or-ál s-éx, because if one wants to receive it, they likewise have to offer it. So they really pérform or-ál s-éx simply as a condition for receiving it.

The question is: Being an African, are you going to perform or-ál s-éx in your partner if he or she request or indicaté interést inside with or without the most recent rev-élation about or-ál sé-x?

What is your opinion on this matter?

May God bless Africans and dozens of in the Diaspora!

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