Maybe you are a positive person, but when you are around a certain individual, you feel negative. Or, maybe you have an idealistic view of the world and when you are with certain people, you are made to feel silly, unrealistic or delusional. Or, maybe you pride yourself in being completely independent and in control of your life, but when you are around a certain family member, you regress into a state of childhood.
The instances mentioned above can have serious negative impact on our lives , we all have ’issues’ but some are excessively toxic to be around. They damage our self- esteem, outlook and even lifespan. Below are a number of people with issues to avoid if you are to be happy in any way. Totally avoiding them won’t be easy but minimum contact is manageable
1. Manipulative Maryanne:
These individuals are experts at manipulation tactics. Is a matter of fact, you may not even realize you have been manipulated until it is too late. These individuals figure out what your ‘buttons’ are, and push them to get what they want.
Toxic because : These people have a way of eating away at your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make you do things that you don’t necessarily want to do and before you know it, you lose your sense of identity, your personal priorities and your ability to see the reality of the situation. The world all of a sudden becomes centered around their needs and their priorities.
2. Narcissistic Nancy:
These people have an extreme sense of self-importance and believe that the world revolves around them. They are often not as sly as the Manipulative Marys of the world, but instead, tend to be a bit overt about getting their needs met. You often want to say to them “It isn’t always about you.”
Toxic because: They are solely focused on their needs, leaving your needs in the dust. You are left disappointed and unfulfilled. Further, they zap your energy by getting you to focus so much on them, that you have nothing left for yourself.
3. Dotty Downers:
These people can’t appreciate the positive in life. If you tell them you aced a mid-term, they’ll tell you about how difficult the final is going to be.
Toxic because : They take the joy out of everything. Their negativity consumes you and you start looking at things with gray colored glasses yourself.
4. Judgmental Jones:
When you see things as cute and quirky, they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people’s unique perspectives refreshing, they find them ‘wrong’.
Toxic because: Judgmental people are much like Debbie Downers, spending a lot of time with these types can inadvertently convert you into a judgmental person as well.
5. Dream Killing Keiths:
Always know why something can’t work. As you achieve, they try to pull you down. As you dream, they are the first to tell you it is impossible.
Toxic because : These people are stuck in what is instead of what could be. Further, these individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in yourself. Progress and change can only occur from doing new things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for the stars.
6. Never Enough Nancy:
You can never give enough to them. They take you for granted and have unrealistic expectations of you. They find ways to continually fault you and never take responsibility for anything.
Toxic because: You will spend so much time trying to please them, that you will end up losing yourself in the process.
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