In a recent interview with The Awl, adult film star Stoya explained why making such a black-and-white distinction between the true se-x and po-rn s-ex worlds type of misses the point.
When he asked her on her point of view on the "real se-x vs. por-n se-x" debate, she said our collective conception of "normal se-x" leaves out a lot of se-xual preferences that "normal" individuals have: