One significant lie in a connection can destroy it forever. But how good is the B.S. detector? The good thing is by using training everybody can increase their ability to spot lies. The following will be the eight most reliable ways to boost your skills and determine when someone is spitting authentic or fabricated game to you.
1. When the stakes are high, people will lie.
Context is everything. Remember that whenever someone stands a great deal to lose (like you) or a great deal to gain (like you) they are prone to lie.
2. Ask, “How Do You Feel?”
If you're in a predicament where you think the individual you're addressing “did it,” directly ask them “how will you experience doing it.” The wrongly accused person will express anger and tell you so. The guilty person will typically express a range of emotions.
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3. Watch for asymmetry.
When we naturally smile, frown, or shrug, it's typically even and occurs on both parties of the body. Any gesture that's one-sided might be masking what the individual is actually feeling.
4. It's all about the eyes!
Only one in ten people can move the muscles around their eyes to fake a smile. If they're smiling at you but you see no movement (or what's called “crow feet”) around the eyes, there's a higher likelihood the individual you're speaking with is masking their real feelings behind a fabricated smile.
5. Look for someone thinking hard.
We think a liar is going to look anxious or nervous, however, not so. Liars must think harder than normal because they're working to hide the lie so they will instead do issues that make them be seemingly needlessly thinking hard and conserving energy like not using many gestures, utilizing a slow or impersonal tone or being aloof. Think politician or used car salesman.
6. Don't ask “why?”
The quickest way to put someone on the defensive is always to ask them “why?” Instead, in a heated conversation, ask “what made you do that?” Positioning the question in this manner will tremendously change how people respond to you (and therefore everything you study from them).
7. Stay away from the phone.
From research in the Journal of American Society for Information and Technology, most lies come over the telephone or text. This makes sense because it's much harder to lie in person. So whenever you detect deception, also have a face-to-face conversation
8. Pay attention to what happens after you talk.
The liar will typically act relieved after having a discussion in which these were deceptive.
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