Let’s be clear here: This is not just a list of places to go to pick up women, and if you take it that way, it’s not going to be very helpful. Rather, these are ways to conduct yourself so that you’ll be more open to meeting people — specifically, women — and will then potentially have the chance for those relationships to become something more
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1. Plan your weekend social activities mid-week
Regardless of whatever proactive habits you have, meeting people requires you to get out into the world once in a while. When you do, It’s better to be out with friends than out by yourself. That said, it sometimes takes real effort to get a routine-bound group of friends to do anything different or to get a lazy group of friends to do anything at all. Get people involved early in the week instead of waiting until the last minute
Regardless of whatever proactive habits you have, meeting people requires you to get out into the world once in a while. When you do, It’s better to be out with friends than out by yourself. That said, it sometimes takes real effort to get a routine-bound group of friends to do anything different or to get a lazy group of friends to do anything at all. Get people involved early in the week instead of waiting until the last minute
2. Introduce yourself
Figuring out the right time to introduce yourself depends on the situation. Ideally, you should be responding to some kind of acknowledgment from the woman (typically eye contact), and you probably shouldn’t walk up and interrupt her when she’s in the middle of something. But when you do, the important thing is to strike a balance between confidence and relaxation — smiling, self-assured but not pushy. If this part is hard for you, well, that’s why it’s a habit you should start working on. It gets easier with practice
3. Groom
Part of the motivation for this list is that meeting women can and does happen just about anywhere. You never know where and when you’re going to run into someone absolutely stunning, but you’d better believe it’ll happen on the one morning you skip your shower and stagger to work looking like a grungy failure. Taking care of your appearance shouldn’t be something you only bother with when you’re going out; it should be an indispensable part of your routine
Part of the motivation for this list is that meeting women can and does happen just about anywhere. You never know where and when you’re going to run into someone absolutely stunning, but you’d better believe it’ll happen on the one morning you skip your shower and stagger to work looking like a grungy failure. Taking care of your appearance shouldn’t be something you only bother with when you’re going out; it should be an indispensable part of your routine
4. Offer help and be courteous
We are not trying to suggest that holding the door for someone with an armload of groceries or giving up your seat on the bus to an old lady is a way to meet women, and besides, it hopefully doesn’t take the lure of s*x to convince you to be a gentleman. But keep in mind that not doing those things is a pretty good way to look like an a*s. And if it does take the thought of social repercussions to convince you to act like a decent guy, then consider that a beautiful woman could be watching every time you don’t tip a waitress or cut off a driver
We are not trying to suggest that holding the door for someone with an armload of groceries or giving up your seat on the bus to an old lady is a way to meet women, and besides, it hopefully doesn’t take the lure of s*x to convince you to be a gentleman. But keep in mind that not doing those things is a pretty good way to look like an a*s. And if it does take the thought of social repercussions to convince you to act like a decent guy, then consider that a beautiful woman could be watching every time you don’t tip a waitress or cut off a driver
5. Never hesitate
The rest of this list is pretty useless if you’re afraid to seize the opportunities you’re presented with. When you’ve got the chance to get to know someone — or if you’ve already gotten to know her, and you want the relationship to develop into something more — you can’t expect her to do the hard part for you. Confidence is like any other personality trait; you can improve it by working at it, and if you don’t, you’re not just going to spontaneously grow some confidence someday. Take initiative, and don’t waste the opportunities you get.
The rest of this list is pretty useless if you’re afraid to seize the opportunities you’re presented with. When you’ve got the chance to get to know someone — or if you’ve already gotten to know her, and you want the relationship to develop into something more — you can’t expect her to do the hard part for you. Confidence is like any other personality trait; you can improve it by working at it, and if you don’t, you’re not just going to spontaneously grow some confidence someday. Take initiative, and don’t waste the opportunities you get.
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