Time Spent at funerals Should Be Shortened ( Do You Agree ?)

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A group of leaders in the Eastern Cape of South Africa had decided to hold a seminar to discuss ways to shorten and reduce the cost of funerals, it reported;

“People make funerals a show-off, from the coffin to what family members wear. It is sad to see how our people are doing such things; we need to stop this trend,” said seminar organiser Bishop Makhosi Ngcoza.

“We should not expect people to attend a funeral from 9am to 3pm.”

Dearest Ọmọ Oódua Readers: Should I Disclose My Earnings With My Boyfriend?

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This question has been bothering my heart for a while now. Is it proper to tell your boyfriend/spouse what you earn and to let him know the moment your salary is being paid, especially when he is also open to you about his earnings and any income that comes to him? No insults please, just need your mature views on this for us to learn.

Dearest Ọmọ Oódua Readers: Should I Give My Tithe To The Needy Or Pay It To The Church?

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God has been blessing me lately and I am now thinking of giving out some extra money to help other people around me. I am trying to understand the concept of tithing and why I MUST pay it to the church? Does it make a difference if I decide to use my tithe to help those in need?

"I personally think you should shine your eyes when it comes to giving people in need. Giving it to the church or pastor is out of the option. Be wise and remain blessed."

List: Check Out Loads Of Life Lessons You Should Never Joke With.

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Culled from thinksimplenow

1.It’s okay to make mistakes. Mistakes and failures are there to teach us. If we learn from them and correct the way on our path, better things will result from it.

2. We create our own reality. We have the power to break mental patterns that no longer serve us, and we have the power to consciously choose thoughts that empower us. It’s only a matter of breaking old habits and creating new ones.

3. Finding validation and seeking love from another person through relationships is a self-destructive path. Those types of relationships never last, and when they end, they burn in heartache. You must love and respect yourself first. When you wholeheartedly love who you are, the world will fall in love with you, and the right relationship will fall into place. Until I fully accept, love and respect myself, I will continue to attract those relationships rooted in fear, insecurities and dis-empowerment.

God Says President Jonathan Should Not Run in the 2015 Presidential Election – Prophet Charles Osazu

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Prophet Charles Osazuwa, the General Overseer of Rock of Ages Christian Assembly, recently said that God told and showed him that President Goodluck Jonathan should not contest the presidency in 2015. He (the president) should also vacate Aso Rock by that time.

  “God showed me. He revealed to me that by 2015, Nigeria’s president, Goodluck Jonathan should not contest the presidency and should vacate Aso Rock by then. I heard God speak; he said Jonathan should back down for the peace of the country,” the endowed “man of God” said.

Should Pastors Re-Marry After Divorce? See What Pastor Igbodalo Who Remarried Said

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It was a very big issue some years back after Pastor Ituah Ighodalo separated from his first wife and wanted to get married to a beautiful lady. Olufamous.com observed that it was the same issue that made him to leave the Redeemed Christian Church of God, as the church couldn't allow such act.

 

But is it right or wrong for a man, especially a pastor, to do this? See his position below...

Your wife is stunning. How many years have you been married now? 
I got married 2007, so, it is barely six years.

How has married life been to you? 
We thank God. It’s been very nice. Very wonderful. I have a very understanding wife. I believe she loves me very much. She’s simple. She’s easy to get along with, and we are very good friends. So, I’m quite happy to be honest.

Why you should not drink a day before your wedding (SEE PHOTO)

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I saw this picture and all I could think of was, what the hell happened? I wonder how this guy will explain this look to his kids a few years from now... 

OK I saw the pics on BBM and the title was "why you shouldn't drink a day before your wedding", but is this about drinking or was he beaten up by a girl he jilted? or was it an unforeseen occurrence? 

Guess we will never know...I wish them a Happy Married Life, May God keep you both trouble free.

P.s: She is one bold woman!

Should I have My Sister’s Baby? – I Need Advice

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My sister and I are orphans. Our parents died when I was 8 yrs. old. My older sister is married and has been barren for almost 12 years without a child. After much consultation, she was informed that she would not be able to have kids. 

Last night, she came to my house and begged me to carry a child for her. She said that since we are blood sisters, it would be like she was the one having the child. She does not want her husband to go out and get someone else pregnant and then, the woman would end up kicking her out of her husband’s house. She said it would be okay since I was still single and not in any relationship. 

She also told me that she has not informed her husband because she was waiting for my answer. 

I was confused and I did not know what to tell her. I told her to give me some time to think about it. I need all the advice I can get.

Yobo should be grateful to Keshi – Taribo

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Taribo West has launched a scathing attack on Super Eagles captain Joseph Yobo over his outburst against coach Stephen Keshi on Tuesday.

Yobo, who was excluded from the March 23 World Cup qualifying game against the Harambee Stars of Kenya in Calabar, told  Lagos sports radio Brila FM that he was disappointed that Keshi did not consider it necessary to inform him about his decision to drop him from the game that ended 1-1.

“I’m disappointed nobody called me before the team list was announced. It’s disrespectful. I feel disrespected,” Yobo said.

But former Inter Milan and AC Milan strongman Taribo berated the Fenerbahce defender for his outburst, saying it was “immature and uncalled for”.

I Have A Man In My Life, Lesbians Should Stop Texting And Pinging Me- Iyabo Ojo

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She is well known in Nollywood most especially in the Yoruba genre. This single mother, who floated a foundation a while ago, Pinkies Foundations, Iyabo Ojo, has been having issues with lesbians who have become a pain in the neck for her. 

When she was asked what her reaction was on the Pinkie Foundation that’s believed to be a group founded for lesbians she said “A lot of people had different impressions about when we started, because of the name, the sexy Pink Ladies. 

So they thought it was a lesbian group, but 80 percent of the women in the group are married with kids. And I am not someone who supports lesbianism. I don’t have a problem with those who practice it, it’s their choice, but I do not believe in it because I don’t think it’s normal. So when people make such accusation, I just laugh. 

Please Help: Should I Tell My Sister I Slept With Her Fiance?

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During my wild days in the university nine years ago I had a brief fling with a guy I met through a friend. We had séx a few times and saw each other for about a month before we lost touch.

Fast forward eight years later; my immediate younger sister introduced this same guy to me as her boyfriend. I was hoping they would break up so he wouldn't be an issue between my sister and I but that didn't happen.

A year later, they are getting married. Their wedding is actually this Saturday. There's serious friction between the guy and I as we can't even look at each other or talk directly to each other.

I have been avoiding him since he hooked up with my sister but now that they are about to be married, I'm stuck.
Should I tell my sister what happened between us or leave things the way they are? Does she have a right to know?

I'm confused. Pls help!!!

'Tonto Dikeh Should Be Scared Of Me'-​Rising Nollywood Star, Shirley Igwe

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Fast- rising Nollywood actess, Shirley Ogechi Igwe, no doubt, is on the ladder to the top as she smiles to the banks every other day; all thanks to juicy offers that are coming her way recently. 

The sultry thespian and many times Face of Delta Soap/Orange Drugs recently sealed a deal with leading liquid detergent brand, Mama Lemon. In this interview exclusive interview with http://www.nigeriafilms.com's Alonge Michael , she revealed how acting started for her, the state of the movie industry, life as a super model and many more...

What was the attraction to acting? 

I fell in love with the make- believe world. It's amazing how you can play so many characters that you are not and still be you.

The Kind Of Women Every Man Should Avoid

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Relationships are good. The various Holy books recommend marriage, and most men want to settle down with someone good. However, if you are a woman and unable to find a man who consistently enjoys your company, then there’s a problem. I’ve tried to categorize some character traits commonly found in women which tend to keep the prospective men at bay. If you fall into one or two of these categories, sister, it just might be time to make a change.

Being judgemental and generalizing: A few bad experiences don’t mean all men are the same. It shocks me to hear women say all men are the same. Making such an assertion is not only wrong, it affects your judgement of men and consequently affects how you relate to them. A woman who generalizes is usually quick to read the wrong meanings into men’s actions, and usually reacts irrationally before even considering their actions. No man will stick around too long if he’s always feeling attacked and misunderstood.

Dear Ọmọ Oódua readers: I can't stand my wife anymore; should I stay or go?

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"I found out my wife of 11 years cheated on me with some guy. This was last year June. She confessed to me after I confronted her with the facts. I decided to forgive her and stay married to her because I have cheated on her in the past too and I didn't want to destroy our family because we have four small children together. The thing now is; I don't love her anymore. I can't stand her and can't even bare to touch her. When she talks to me I get so angry I feel like stabbing her in the eye but I've never laid hands on her. I don't talk to her much except when we want to talk about the kids. We live in the same house but as strangers. She's really tried to make it up but it's not working. I actually hate it when she's around me, and haven't touched her since I found out about the cheating

I thought my anger and disgust at her would fade with time but it's been 9 months and I still feel this way. Will this anger ever go away or should I just end things with her?

HELP: My Husband's Girlfriend is Pregnant for Him; What Should I Do?

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Please I need urgent advise. I left my matrimonial home in January after I found out another woman was pregnant for my husband. I was six months pregnant then and the other lady was five.

 

This woman is my husband's ex who he kept sleeping with until our wedding in September 2012. He told me he hasn't touched her since we got married but he got her pregnant a month before our wedding...

I'm eight months pregnant now and I'm very angry and disappointed in myself for choosing a man who has humiliated me so much. My family and friends are begging me to go back home, give my marriage a chance and have my baby there, but I don't know that I want to do that. 

 

I'm staying at my parents house at the moment and yes my husband is also begging. So on top of being angry, I'm also confused. Please what should I do?

5 Things You Should Know About New Extremist Sect, ANSARU

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The group has claimed responsibility for some daring attacks in Nigeria. Last Monday, Ansaru, a hitherto little-known sect stunned the international community when it announced responsibility for the kidnap of seven foreigners in Bauchi, North-East Nigeria. Here are five quick things you need to know about the group.

Started: Ansaru was formed in January 2012. It announced its presence through a video, released in January 2012. Identity/Agenda: Its full name (in Arabic) is Jama’atu Ansarul Muslimina Fi Bidalis Sudan. This translates to “Vanguards for the Protection of Muslims in Black Africa.” The group claims it is fighting to reclaim “the lost dignity of Muslims of black Africa” and to create an Islamic caliphate covering Niger Republic, Cameroon, and Northern Nigeria. Analysts suspect Ansaru is an offshoot of Boko Haram.

8 Things Couples Should Do Every Single Day To Keep The Love Alive

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Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. And whether you go all out with the flowers, candy and ginormous teddy bears or you simply think it’s a waste , well, it doesn’t really matter now. The day has passed. But the feelings shouldn’t.

You want to be romantic? You want to get those b*tterfly feelings in your stomach just like you had on your first date long ago? Good. Then every single day should be your Valentine’s Day. Spread the love 365 times a year.

To help you keep that flame burning, here’s a list of 8 things couples need to do every single day!

Compliment each other - Whether it’s the way they calm the kids down or fix the DVD player or decorate the house, take a moment to praise your significant other for something they’ve done.

Mistakes couples should not take lightly

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Men, since you are the head of the home I will like to start with letting you know that some of the things you take lightly mean the world to your wife. The point is that many men often don’t mean to, but you may be making mistakes that risk ruining your relationship.

Here are some tips to prevent such. I am sure some may want to argue with me and get defensive, but before you do, please ask your wife.  Now, from my counselling sessions with couples, I have discovered these mistakes are not deliberate. However recognising these mistakes and making efforts to correct them could make a big difference to your relationship.

Should Couples Have Joint Accounts ?

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Tunde grimaced as the cashier handed him back the debit card. “I am sorry Sir, but your card has been declined for insufficient funds”. Since he got married to Temi, this had become a problem. Temi was not as responsible with money as he would have liked and could be quite frivolous and impulsive about spending. Whatever money was deposited in the joint account through direct debits from their two salary accounts simply evaporated into thin air. Fortunately, Tunde always kept some cash on him so he was able to pay for the groceries.

Tough economic times can strain not only a couple’s finances, but their relationship as well; where one partner is less “responsible” with money, their spouse may feel some resentment. Financial concerns are one of the most common sources of tension in a relationship. Fortunately, planning and communication can help you avoid financial friction and frustrating conversations.

I'm Pregnant For My Pastor, What Should I Do? - UK Based Nigerian Girl Needs Advice

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Am based in the United Kingdom and a member of the Redeemed Christian Church of God here in the UK. I am a 25-year-old Nigerian girl.
I have lived in the UK for over five years, running into my 6th year already. However, as it is generally held, “life is not always smooth and straight” I understand that life, most of the time is full of ‘zig and zag’ just like it’s characterized with ups and downs. My story is not different after all. I have had my good times too, and I consider this time as my most trying moment.